The Life Connection • Big Love

I am 46 years old and am working on manifesting in my life my ideal soulmate. I know others who have found love through dating websites, but I’ve chosen to work on the Law of Attraction, which I discovered last year. I’m very clear about what I’m looking for in a woman. My biggest deficit is I’ve yet to experience a romantic relationship in my life. I’ve been working doing the suggested ‘feelingizations’ and creating space. Yet I really don’t know how to start taking action or what I can do to manifest that special woman. I’m often told that I have a loving, nurturing energy that puts people at ease, and I’m also physically active. Most days I feel very excited knowing my soulmate is on her way; occasionally, though, part of me wonders if this soulmate manifestation only works for other people. It feels like a step back when I notice such feelings creeping in. Does this work for everyone, and what can I do to strengthen my ability to attract a right woman into my life? Deep down, I do know and feel that I deserve to truly love and be loved as much as anyone else.

Love, Jay

Dear Jay,

First of all we would like to honor all the work you’ve done to prepare yourself for someone special in your life. It sounds like it’s really paid off in terms of your own deeper understanding of who you are and what you truly want in a relationship—congratulations!! Those qualities you’ve developed will only enhance and enrich your own experience as well as your partners.

Please continue with the “feelingizations” and all the other practices you have been committed to because you want to always build on the solid foundation you’ve already created. Most importantly though keep your focus on the “knowing” that your Soulmate is on the way and that you are “deserving” of that special person’s love as well as loving her in return. The more days you wake up with that “excitement” that the love of your life is truly out there coupled with the KNOWING from your heart that you WILL make someone very happy will only generate more and more delicious soulmate opportunities for you. Those are all YOUR words not ours!! And if those “feelings creep in” of uncertainty don’t be hard on yourself or think you’ve taken two steps backwards just refocus on the KNOWING and DESERVING (and from your heart) send love to yourself and your future soulmate. Jay, these practices do work for other people and they will work for you too!

But here’s the really, really, really, important part of the equation, my friend—it’s time to start dating! It’s time to apply these effective practices, techniques and tools to good use so the universe can support and ultimately reward you for all your beautiful and integral efforts in finding the love of your life!! We have quite a few friends who have found their soulmates on dating websites, yoga classes, gyms and other unusual venues. All of this can be really fun! And, since you haven’t had much experience with dating or relationships, we would also suggest that you consider hiring a relationship coach. Coaches can be an invaluable source of inspiration and wisdom to help guide you and give you confidence during this vulnerable period in your life. You can find information on several coaches at www.soulmatesecret.com on the favorite links page. Jay, we know you can do this and we look forward to hearing back from you when you have found “the ONE.”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle & Brian

Arielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is one of the founding partners of the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the author of seven books including Hot Chocolate for the Mystical Soul. Her husband and soulmate Brian Hilliard is a business consultant with a lifelong interest in spirituality and the practice of compassion. They live in La Jolla, CA.

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