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• Terry Cole-Whittaker

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• by Carola Eastwood

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Big Love: Secrets from Soulmates Arielle and Brian

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Book Reviews

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December, 2009

Dear Arielle & Brian,

I am reading The Soulmate Secret and doing the exercises you suggest. Now I am wondering, how many soulmates can we have in this life because I am feeling connection and seeing more than one person as a potential soulmate? The bottom line here is: how am I going to know who is the one? Any advice is greatly appreciated!



Dear Maria,

You are right, we do have the possibility of many soulmates in a lifetime. How much fun is that?? There is no set number just a nourished soul—YOU! If you have made your soulmate wish list that will help—you in determining who the right person might be for you. They should definitely match the most important elements on your list and there should be powerful chemistry and mutual, shared visions for a healthy and loving life together. Once you align your list with someone and actually meet them—you probably will get severe—“goose bumps” and from the deepest depths of your heart and soul there will be a loud and courageous “YES” that this is the one, this is how it happens!! “YES” I’m going to TRUST this voice and acknowledgement from source and “YES” I’m going to discern from my heart and soul as I move forward that this inner voice will assist me in determining if this brand new relationship blossoms and flourishes or maybe just settles into a wonderful friendship. Maria, It doesn’t get any better than that, does it?

Best wishes and please know we’re sending you lots of love and support in your amazing quest for Big Love.


Arielle & Brian

Dear Arielle and Brian,

I keep visualizing my soul mate and feel really open to him, and nothing is happening. What am I doing wrong?

Thanks for your help,


Dear Isabel,

Why would you assume you are doing something wrong? Opening your heart and life to manifesting a soulmate requires patience because when your will and God’s will align that is what we call Divine Timing. In preparing to manifest your soulmate, an element of willful effort as well as big elements of faith and destiny is involved. It’s that powerfully synergistic combination of the three that will get you where you want to go. As your heart opens and you begin to feel totally ready for your beloved, your soulmate might be in the process of coming to you but still has to work through some details or issues. When you eventually do get together you will discover that you really did meet at the exact divine or magical time for both of you. Until then, we suggest that you ask yourself these questions:

  • Do I believe that I am deserving of a soulmate and do I believe he is also looking for me?
  • Am I clear about the nature of the persona and relationship that I now wish to manifest?
  • Have I healed the baggage (issues or wounds) of my past relationships?
  • Do I love myself and sincerely enjoy the pleasure of my own company?
  • Do I have the true dedication, time, energy and resources to nurture another?
  • Am I living as if my soulmate were already with me while I savor the waiting of his arrival?

You may see areas in which to invest some of your time, energy, attention and intention or you may be 100% ready and just need to savor the waiting.

Either way you choose Isabel, please know we support you 1000% and we’re sending you tons and tons of love, care and prayers for the outcome your heart and soul desires.


Arielle and Brian


Arielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is one of the founding partners of the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the author of seven books including Hot Chocolate for the Mystical Soul. Her husband and soulmate Brian Hilliard is a business consultant with a lifelong interest in spirituality and the practice of compassion. They live in La Jolla, CA.

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